Wednesday, 10 August 2005

50 reasons to be glad you are pregnant

It could be the glorious 2nd trimester kicking in or it could also be helping someone else deal with their pains but I feel more upbeat about myself --- and also stopping to take stock and count my blessings.
Not in any juice to be creative now but BabyCentreUK has a list of 50 reasons to celebrate pregnancy so I thought it'd be fun to remind mums-to-be (including myself) out there that this IS a time to celebrate!
P/S After looking at some of the reasons below, it got me thinking about more serious stuff i.e. maternity benefits and also employment during pregnancy. Hmm...

50 reasons to be glad you’re pregnantWe all have moments when we think, 'Never again!' during pregnancy: perhaps morning sickness is making you miserable or you're 10 days overdue with not even a hint of a contraction. To remind you that being pregnant can be fun, we've rounded up some of the nice things about being an expectant mum. 

And why not share the things that have made pregnancy wonderful for you — just scroll down to the parents' tips box, below. 

1 Relishing the early weeks when only you and your partner know your special secret. [yes, this was pretty fun]

2 Knowing you've got nine whole months to plan, dream and fantasise[we've been doing this also but also fraught with worries. Hey, this is a first time for us ok!]

3 Choosing maternity clothes — they've never been more practical or more sexy. [Uh, practical yes, sexy, not yet]
4 Now you've got the perfect excuse to pamper yourself — spending hours in a scented bath, enjoying a massage or rubbing soothing lotions into your growing bump. [Yes!]
Maternity rights in the UK are getting better all the time. Now (from April 2003), new mothers get six weeks on 90 per cent of their pay, followed by 20 weeks at £100 per week. For those with more than a year in service at work, there are an extra 26 weeks of unpaid leave available. [We Malaysians are still a few steps behind our sisters in advanced countries as our maternity leave is less than 90 days recommended by the Intl' Labor Organization. Check out ClearingHouseatColumbiaU and UNDP

6 You can join an 
antenatal class and find a whole new bunch of friends (and don't forget our BabyCentre birth clubs -- another great way to meet people due at the same time as you). [Once I get my act together, we're gonna sign up for one soon. Can't wait to meet other first timers too =)

7 For once in your life you need to get heavier — pregnancy is Nature's way of making you feel good about putting on weight. [Oh, yes, nobody frowns or questions you if you're nibbling a plate of choc chip cookies or even dare ask for a piece! tsk, tsk...selfish mum?] 

8 If this is your first baby, enjoy the next nine months sleeping late at weekends -- you won't get many chances later on. [I have to admit another nice perk]

9 At last you've got the bosom you've always wanted, which means you also have... [ comments on this]

10 ...a great excuse to buy lots of pretty new bras. [True for some people I know]

11 From now on and until your baby is a year old, you can get free dental treatment — phone your dentist now! [I don't think this applies to us here either]

12 At last you'll have something more than potplants and cats to care for and nurture! [Aiyo...should I share that all my potplants have died slow, painful, parched deaths??]

13 Suddenly you'll find you're getting lots of extra attention from parents, aunts and uncles -- not to mention your partner. [Yes, this is true though I've not been very good company to anyone actually. And that's because the nausea sort of discourages u to talk and that's really odd for a chatterbox like me! Please if u see me with hardly a word, it wasn't me!]
 14 You may find you develop a closer relationship with sisters, cousins or friends who are parents themselves -- congratulations, you've just won free admission to the parents' club! [I'm extremely thankful to my ex-colleague who has been a great blessing to me. She was very excited at my news and has been a wonderful listening ear, gentle advisor and altogether a truly great friend! And now, this blessed lady is givine me 3 bags of her maternitywear on loan...great savings for me since I'm looking at unemployment for many months down the road]
15 Telling your mum, dad, sister, brother, aunt, dog the good news and watching their faces light up. [This has been hilarious/peculiar for us since in Asian culture, people are more cautious when you're still in the 1st trimester but I totally understand this since we're cautious ourselves too]
16 New talents! Whether it's knitting bootees or assembling a flat-pack cot, you'll suddenly find yourself trying out all sorts of new skills. [Uh, not yet! Another pantang-larang (taboo) for us before the 7th month, if I'm not wrong i.e. only look for baby stuff later]
17 Suddenly you'll feel a new appreciation for your own mother and all she went through having you. [This is definitely a new discovery alright and a refreshing look at my mum]

18 Decorating the nursery -- one of the most exciting things you'll ever do. [Soon, baby, soon]
19 Feeling those first fluttering kicks and thinking, 'Is that what I think it is? Or is it just wind?' [One of my co-workers in her 5th month actually giggles when that happens coz it's ticklish. I felt a flutter once and I found it weird! Where, oh, where is my mothering instinct?]
20 Feeling OK for sending your partner out for chicken tikka masala followed by double-choc chip ice cream. [Nolah, the poor guy has enough to do without these weird demands. But he's been putting on some weight eating most of my leftovers!]
21 Your parents digging out your old cot or pram, which they've kept safely all this time 'just in case'. [Uh, definitely not, since they sort of gave up that we're EVER going to settle down and have kids. Of course they knew about the thyroid problem so the news was quite a pleasant surprise. I just wonder if my old granny knows about it yet...she thought I had twins when I told her about someone else]
22 Going for healthy walks with your partner and getting fresh air in your lungs because it's good for you and good for your baby. [We'll do this when the 5th month comes along]

23 Enjoying the 
extra-vivid dreams you get in late pregnancy — and laughing about them with your friends. [I've actually been having some seriously weird dreams so not sure if these are the same ones?]

26 Writing a pregnancy diary for your baby to read in the future. [Yeah, we've been keeping one of those and also a scrapbook of the ultrasound scans. We're due to see the doc in 2 weeks and hope to be able to know what 'IT' is!]
27 Getting someone to take photos of you smiling over your enormous bump so that, one day, you can look back and be amazed you were ever that size. [Oh, I can assure you that R has been having a lot of fun doing this]
28 Finding out how many people there are out there ready to care for you -- doctors, nurses, midwives, health visitors, breastfeeding counsellors... [So far, one doc and his bevy of nurses]
29 Lying in bed with your partner's arms around you and your bump, knowing that love has created a new life. [Yes, another blessing to be thankful for is my dear, dear hubby!]
30 Enjoying indulgences, such as evenings out, weekends away and anything else you might not be able to do so easily once the baby arrives. [Oh, we're looking forward to one of this soon alright]
31 Knowing that from now on, whatever happens, you'll never be bored again. [Yes, we talk about it every time we see anyone with kids. You might think I'm nuts but I actually think it'd be fun to have 2-3 kids becoz they're fun to watch during their interaction with each other - even Lynette's twins on "Desperate Housewives"]
32 Making new friends whenever you go shopping — everyone has a pregnancy story to share. [Not really coz most of the ppl I've met so far are as equally grumpy as I am! ha ha beware the pregnant lady!] 
33 You can spend whole evenings debating whether to call your baby Hermione or Cleo
patra, Fritz or Stanley... (don't forget to try our BabyCentre baby namer if you get stuck!) [Yeah, I've got Ronaldo, Ronaldinho, Britney, Shania, Jose, Roberto Carlos suggested by SOMEONE...]

34 Imagining what he or she will look like. Your sweet little ears, of course, and his sexy eyes! [Lots of inside jokes and cracks about this! Sorry, cannot postlah]
35 Dreaming about, "My daughter the prime minister/pop star/brain surgeon." [Uh, no, no visions of grandeur yet...]
36 Looking at your growing bump in the mirror and realising there's a person in there! [Oh, no, we realized when we saw the last ultrasound]
37 Making out a squirmy outline on the ultrasound monitor. Asking for the pic to take home and pinning it up next to your work station, or just keeping it in your bag to sneak looks at. [I've been meaning to show them to co-workers but I just keep forgetting. Will do that soon...]

38 The expression on your partner's face as he sees the test strip turn blue, looks at your growing bump or feels the baby kicking. [Let's not go back to that episode]
And all these other perks to come later...
24 Feeling a little pair of heels prodding under your diaphragm and knowing you'll soon be meeting the little person they belong to!

25 Choosing baby clothes — or just phoning round for all the catalogues, leafing through them and planning what you're going to buy.

***Hey, what happened to 26-38???***
39 Buying that first little cuddly toy for your baby, not somebody else's.
40 Making that phone call to your partner to tell him that — we're off! — labour has started

41 Trying out all those exercises you learned at 
antenatal class and finding out that they actually work! 

42 Being held and supported throughout a contraction by your partner/midwife/labour companion and knowing that you can trust them totally.
43 Finding out, as the contractions get tough, that your repertoire of swear words is far more extensive than you ever realised!
44 Making an informed choice about pain relief and finding that it's right for you at that stage in labour

45 That huge rush of pleasure and relief when, suddenly, all the pain and effort stops.
46 Looking into your newborn's eyes and falling utterly in love.

47 Watching your partner kiss the midwife, the doctor, cleaning lady, delivery man and anyone else he can find because his joy and pride are overwhelming.

48 Opening a bottle of bubbly to celebrate, whatever the time of day or night.

49 Making all those phone calls to announce the arrival. Telling everyone the news and hearing the excitement in their voices.

50 Waking up to see your baby sleeping next to you and thinking, 'Wow! This is real. I'm a mum!'

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